'My dad says he'll ruin my wedding if I don't invite one guest - it's so petty'

A bride-to-be is unsure what to do about her wedding guest list after her own father declared he would ruin her big day if she didn't invite one person that she'd previously banned

Your wedding should be a day of celebration, not for family drama.

No matter how big or small your wedding is, most of us want our family and friends to be there to see us get married, even if it's a small gathering of just those most precious to us. For most of us, this includes our parents, any siblings we might have, and our closest friends.

You also don't expect those you've invited to cause a scene at your wedding and turn it into a nightmare. But that's the situation one bride-to-be is facing after her dad threatened to ruin her wedding day if she didn't do what he wanted.

She explained that her parents are divorced and are both now dating new people, but because of the small size of her wedding, she's asked that they both come alone without their new partners. Her mum has agreed to this with no issue, but her dad is putting his foot down - and has even threatened to prevent other people from attending if his girlfriend can't be there.

In a post on Reddit, the bride said: "The wedding is small (really only 15 people), and I explained to them that I would just like them there without their partners. I emphasised that it is small and intimate, and I really only want immediate family and a few close friends there. My dad went 0-60 with his emotions and said that he was choosing his girlfriend over me and that he would always choose her over me. I responded that that is his choice and he can choose not to come.

"When antagonising me did not work, he said he would disallow my grandmother from coming, as she is pretty dependent on him. I got off the phone because I did not feel the conversation was productive. I am not sure how to mitigate this situation since I know my dad will pull everybody down with him."

The woman said she's "concerned" about not having her grandmother at her wedding as she means the world to her and wants her to see her get married. However, her grandma has since "screamed" at her to just let her dad bring his girlfriend so that everyone is happy - even though the bride knows she shouldn't "encourage him by giving in".

My dad is working to ruin my wedding unless I do what he says.
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Now, the woman and her partner are thinking of cancelling the entire wedding and just eloping together to avoid any family drama ruining their special day. Commenters on the post backed the idea of eloping. Others also suggested she uninvite her father, but arrange for someone else to pick up her grandma so that she doesn't have to miss out too.

One person wrote: "Have the wedding, un-invite your father who it seems hasn't changed one bit from when your mother escaped him, and have someone else pick up your grandmother for the wedding."

Another added: "Go no-contact. Don't invite him to the wedding. And have the wedding you desire and deserve. Do not give your dad any more power over you. Do not not have a wedding because of some man and his manipulation."

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