'I uninvited fiance's work wife from our wedding - she wanted to play bride'

A woman has shared her heartache after seeing how close her fiance truly is with his 'work wife' - and now she wants to uninvite her from their wedding as she knows she'd cause trouble

A bride-to-be has been left devastated by her fiance's reaction after she asked to uninvite his 'work wife' from their wedding.

The 29-year-old explained how she is set to marry her one true love, 31, - but his work colleague keeps inserting herself into their special day.

She said on Reddit: "We’ve been planning this wedding for over a year, and it’s been a beautiful, but stressful, experience. But there’s one person casting a shadow over everything, and that’s my fiancé’s 'work wife,' Lily, 30F. My fiancé and Lily have been friends and coworkers for around five years. At first, I was honestly relieved he had a good friend at work, especially since his job can be demanding and a bit isolating.

"I tried to be the cool, understanding partner who wasn’t bothered by how close they were. But over time, their bond became something I just don’t know how to handle." She shared how Lily is constantly texting her fiancé late at night about everything from work issues to little jokes.

She added: "She knows things about him that I sometimes don’t, and it stings to realise how much he turns to her for advice and laughs instead of me. My fiancé reassures me that they’re just friends, that she’s his 'work wife,' and that it’s no big deal. But it feels like she’s gotten so close that I’m sometimes the one on the outside looking in."

When she started wedding planning, Lily started chiming in with her views on how the day should pan out. She even went as far to suggest she should wear a different bridal dress, saying she knows what would impress the groom most. She added: "I tried to laugh it off, but it hurt more than I wanted to admit. Here I am planning my wedding, and I felt like I had to measure up to her view of who my fiancé is."

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Continuing to tell her tale, the woman said: "Last week was our engagement party, and it was supposed to be such a happy day. But I kept noticing Lily glued to his side. I tried to join their conversations, but every time, she’d bring up a work story or inside joke that left me feeling like a third wheel at my own engagement. Then, in one of the worst moments, I walked up just as she was saying, 'You know, if you change your mind, you could always marry me instead.' My heart sank.

"I didn’t know if she was joking or half-serious, but my fiancé laughed, brushing it off like it was no big deal." The final straw came towards the end of the night when Lily asked her is she was "really okay" with how close they were. She added: "She said something like, 'I mean, I can’t imagine him with anyone else.' It felt like a knife to my chest. I wanted to scream, but instead, I just walked away."

Later, she told her fiancé she doesn't want Lily at the wedding because it would be "too painful" to watch her again insert herself in their relationship. But he got defensive and condemned her for making him choose between his best friend and his fiancee.

Wanting to know whether she is in the wrong for uninviting Lily, she asked Reddit users: "I feel hurt, small, and like my feelings don’t matter. My friends support me, but his friends think I’m overreacting and letting insecurity ruin our relationship. Am I the one blowing this up, or am I right to want some respect and boundaries?"

In response, one user said: "Lily sounds like a conniving b****. I have a few very good male besties. One of them got married about a year ago. I would never dream of behaving like that to his now-wife. Honestly, you don't have a work-wife problem, you have a fiancé problem."

Another user added: "Hate the term 'work wife' or 'work husband' almost as much as 'body count'. How damn stupid. Time for bubba to grow up and yes, make a choice."