'My dad has threatened to ruin my wedding if I don't do what he says – I'm furious'

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Your wedding day should be a joyous occasion, free from family squabbles.

Whether it's an intimate affair or a grand celebration, most people want their wedding to include their nearest and dearest, such as parents, siblings, and best mates.

It's certainly not the time for guests to kick up a fuss and overshadow the festivities with drama. Yet, that's precisely the predicament one bride-to-be finds herself in after her father threatened to disrupt her nuptials if his demands weren't met.

The woman, whose parents are divorced and seeing new partners, has opted for a small ceremony and requested that both her mother and father attend solo. While her mother consented without issue, her father is digging in his heels, even going as far as to threaten to block other guests from attending if his girlfriend isn't invited.

Taking to Reddit, the distressed bride posted: "The wedding is small (really only 15 people), and I explained to them that I would just like them there without their partners. I emphasised that it is small and intimate, and I really only want immediate family and a few close friends there. My dad went 0-60 with his emotions and said that he was choosing his girlfriend over me and that he would always choose her over me. I responded that that is his choice and he can choose not to come.

"When antagonising me did not work, he said he would disallow my grandmother from coming, as she is pretty dependent on him. I got off the phone because I did not feel the conversation was productive. I am not sure how to mitigate this situation since I know my dad will pull everybody down with him."

The woman expressed her worry about her grandmother's absence at her wedding as she means the world to her. However, her grandma has since "screamed" at her to just let her dad bring his girlfriend so that everyone is happy - even though the bride knows she shouldn't "encourage him by giving in".

Now, the woman and her partner are contemplating cancelling the entire wedding and eloping together to avoid any family drama ruining their special day. Commenters on the post suggested she uninvite her father, but arrange for someone else to pick up her grandma so that she doesn't have to miss out too.

One person wrote: "Have the wedding, un-invite your father who it seems hasn't changed one bit from when your mother escaped him, and have someone else pick up your grandmother for the wedding."

Another added: "Go no-contact. Don't invite him to the wedding. And have the wedding you desire and deserve. Do not give your dad any more power over you. Do not not have a wedding because of some man and his manipulation."

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