My bridesmaid has booked her holiday at my honeymoon destination

A bride-to-be recently revealed that her bridesmaid has upset her by booking a holiday at the same hotel where she will be honeymooning at the time. 

In a post on British parenting platform Mumsnet, the women shared that she was considering removing the bridesmaid from her bridal party because of the incident.

She alleged that her friend knew the honeymoon destination and date before she made the booking. 

The bride-to-be added that she is so uncomfortable with her mate's decision, she is considering demoting her to a wedding guest. 

However, her post divided opinion on Mumsnet, with some users suggesting that punishing the bridesmaid would make her a 'bridezilla'. 

They added that she doesn't have the right to control when and where other people go on holiday. 

The post read: 'I have recently found out that one of my bridesmaids has just booked to go to the same place we’re going for our honeymoon at the same time! 

'For context she knew when and where we were going so wasn’t unaware of this when she booked the holiday. 

'This has made me feel really odd and I really do not feel comfortable with this, there is nothing I can do about her going on this holiday at the same time but now I really don’t think I want her as a bridesmaid anymore. How should I approach this?'

One person said: 'Sorry to break it to you but this is massively bridezilla. You can't control when and where other people go on holiday.'

Another said: 'I wouldn't do it on purpose but if it happened by accident, I would think that the bride would be very bridezilla to object. And if she did it on purpose I'd still see it as bridezilla. You can't tell someone where to spend their time or how to spend their money.

'It's obviously jealousy because they want it to be a special honeymoon place and it's just a normal holiday for the other person.

'If you want to ban people from your space you book a private villa. What difference does it make whether you know them or not, either people are around you or they aren't.'

A third comment read: 'This seems like a bit of a non issue. If somebody is a good enough friend to be your bridesmaid and put themselves out to make your wedding special then I really can’t see why it would then be such a hardship if you then happened to see this very good friend again on your honeymoon. 

'Which is if you’re even likely to see them in the first place, since you haven’t clarified whether it’s the same city or the same hotel.

'Some of our friends joined us for part of our honeymoon and it was actually pretty nice, it never struck me as an imposition at all, let alone something to end a friendship over.'

However, some people admitted it was weird that the bridesmaid wanted to 'crash the honeymoon', urging the bride to 'stand up for herself.' 

One person wrote: 'I mean, OP, this woman has the brass neck to crash your honeymoon, but you are worried about telling her she's no longer a bridesmaid? Please stand up for yourself - not rudely, just plainly and simply.'

Another said: 'That is a little bizarre. Doesn’t she understand that you want space and privacy?! Is she the type of person who loves to be the centre of attention? 

'I think before you remove her as bridesmaid you just need to ask her why she has booked at the same time and explain how it makes you feel. If she refuses to change the date/location then tell her she can no longer be a bridesmaid and the reason why.'

Someone else weighed in: 'Pretty weird. I’d unask and change hotel' A fourth said: 'If it's not a financial disaster, I'd actually rebook your own honeymoon as well as firing her. The last thing you want is to see her after this. Is there another resort you like?'