Anguished woman says mum-in-law is 'dead to her' due to cruel act in delivery room

A mum-to-be was furious after her mother-in-law cruelly ruined her birthing plans - and demanded she left the room during the labour, only to now be told she 'took it too far'

Many expecting mothers will have their birthing plan set out in advance, knowing exactly how they want it to be - and in an ideal world it will go according to plan. However, this sometimes isn't the case as one expecting mum found out when she was snubbed by her mother-in-law.

Furious that she hadn't stuck to the plans in place - she realised her mother-in-law had come alone, despite the plan being for her mum and two sons to come with her.

Then, realising she had done it on purpose, the woman demanded her mother-in-law to leave the delivery room. The expecting mum claimed it was a "well-known plan" for three months for both her and her partner's mums to be present, as well as her two sons and her grandmother. So she couldn't believe that they weren't there because her mother-in-law didn't pick them up.

The furious expecting mum took to Reddit to rant about the ordeal and wrote: "For the past three months it's been a very well-known plan that when I went into labour, my husband was going to drive me to the hospital and my mother-in-law was going to pick up my mother, my kids and my grandmother (all from one house)."

She detailed that the plan was for the two mothers to be in the delivery room, and her grandmother would watch her sons in the waiting room, and "everyone was in agreement", but most importantly she needed her mum there as she helped her through the "mental anguish and panic" of giving birth. "I needed her to be with me with this baby too; mentally. So we worked this plan out months in advance and everyone was on the same page," she added.

So when the moment came and she went into labour, phone calls were made for everyone to come to the hospital. The post further detailed: "An hour and 15 minutes later, mother-in-law shows up at the hospital without my mum, my kids or my grandmother. She said 'well it's late so we need to just let everyone sleep' (it was 9:30pm) and then sat her ass down on the chair in the delivery room and jumped on her phone.

"I told her in a pi***d off tone to go get my mum, that was the plan, I needed my mum, and she just wouldn't. At one point she said that she didn't feel up to driving that much (my mum lives 20 minutes from her house, an hour away). So, I told her to get the f**k out of the room and that she was dead to me.

"The amount of resentment and disgust that I felt toward her in this moment is honestly not something I feel I will overcome any time soon. She was pi***d, saying that my mum got to experience two births already and how she didn't do anything wrong and she was "just being respectful of people's sleep" and where she wasn't leaving, she was actually escorted out."

Luckily, her mum made it to the hospital just as she was giving birth, although without her sons and grandmother which bothered her as she'd "promised our kids they would be the first to meet their sister". The new mum can't find a way to forgive her mother-in-law for what she did, despite being told she's "taking this too far and that it wasn't that big of a deal".

Redditors flocked to the comments to assure her she had every reason to be annoyed. One user wrote: "I don't blame you for being so angry. She chose her actions, and now she needs to learn from her actions. A time-out is a perfect way to teach her. Those that are saying you took it too far, how would they feel, because she doesn't care about anyone but herself," and another wrote: "Your mother-in-law's argument isn't even valid because you called and spoke to everyone to tell them to get ready to come to the hospital. She doesn't get to decide for someone else if they should get some rest or not."

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