'I'm suddenly attracted to women after 20 years of marriage - how do I tell my husband?'

A woman has been left with a huge dilemma as she's realised she's attracted to women, despite being happily married to her husband - and doesn't know if she should tell him or not

After being with her husband for over twenty years, one woman has come to the realisation she thinks she may prefer women to men - but doesn't know how to tell her partner.

The wife explained that she and her partner, who met as teenagers, now have grown-up daughters and have been happily married for years. But it's taken her until her mid-40s to recognise she is attracted to women and she's now even fantasising about the thought of being with one.

Feeling completely confused by the discovery, she's unsure whether to tell her family or not, but fears she's being hypocritical by not being open.

The worried wife sought advice from a Metro Agony aunt and said she's come to the realisation she's 'probably bisexual' and explained: "I say probably because I have never actually explored this, I've never been with a woman, and I am monogamous. But over recent years I have recognised that I am attracted to women, and occasionally fantasise about it."

However her issue is that she's unsure of there is "any point" disclosing it to her family. She further detailed: "I feel like it would seem disruptive and bring uncertainty, and maybe it's unnecessary as I'm not going to do anything about it."

However she said she also feels at the same time as if she's holding a part of herself back, and stated that as a family they are all "very open" as well as being extremely "accepting and transparent". The wife concluded: "I want my daughters to be able to tell me anything, so is it hypercritical to keep this hidden?"

The advice given to her was that she's right to worry it would cause questions and 'some disruption' but this is only because there is so much 'misconception' around bisexuality. The agnoy aunt continued that sexuality isn't something that can be 'swept under the carpet' and advised to tell her family as it's unfair to hold back on feelings.

She said sometimes fantasies develop and leaves the person wanting more, which could lead to unfaithfulness and nothing good comes from letting things "ruminate in the dark".

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