'My sister-in-law thinks our wedding should revolve around her kids'

A bride was left furious after realising her sister-in-law went behind her back to try and accommodate her young son - despite the bride already telling her no

Weddings can be a great way to get families together, but they can also cause a lot of friction during the planning. From distant relatives to table planning it can get awkward trying to please everyone.

However, one furious bride has shared how her sister-in-law expects her wedding to revolve around her young son and had even gone behind the bride's back to call the venue to make sure they could accommodate her one-year-old son - despite the bride already saying no to him being in her bridal suite. Although she views herself as a laid-back bride, this has been a step too far.

Being a "natural people pleaser" the bride is having to force herself to put her foot down to people trying to walk all over her during her wedding planning as it's starting to "affect her mentally". Taking to Reddit to share her frustration, the easygoing bride wrote: "I am a very laidback bride and I also hate conflict. I am a natural people pleaser and have a hard time saying no to people. But when it comes to our wedding.

"My fiancé’s one sister has been causing a lot of issues lately regarding our wedding and her kids. She texted me a few weeks ago and told me her kids had coverage for the day and would be dropped off at the venue before the ceremony, then picked up when the reception starts (she doesn't want them to stay for the reception, we have allowed our nieces and nephews to attend if wanted though). However, she has made comments about how hard it has been to find coverage for her kids and how it's been causing her stress, even though she's known about this for two years.

"The other day she texted me this long thing asking if her son (1.5-year-old) could come to the bridal suite the morning of the wedding while we girls can get ready. She said she would bring his pack-and-play and would have him nap in it. She said that it would be so much easier for her to just have him and said she has been very overwhelmed with coordinating her son's schedules around our wedding, basically trying to make me feel bad."

She claimed she doesn't want a toddler "running around my bridal suite" in the morning. She added: "We have nine girls getting ready and a team of hair and makeup people, and the thought of a pack and play taking up the suite and us girls having to be quiet while he's napping just doesn’t sit right with me."

The groom then took the situation into his own hands and asked his sister to respect their wishes as it's "not the place for a baby" to which the bride and groom found out she called the venue behind their backs to "ask about the bridal suite space" to which she was told there was "plenty of space to accommodate a baby".

"I was furious and I ended up losing my cool while talking to my fiancé about his family (which was definitely built up). My fiancé completely agrees with me, but I don’t know how to proceed. At this point, I don't even want his sister with us the morning of the wedding because of how much stress she has caused me. My other bridesmaids agree with me that she's completely out of line."

Although she doesn't want to cause issues with her fiance's family, the seething bride wants to stick up for herself and the wedding day she and her other half have both worked so hard for. The couple now feel deflated that people are refusing to respect their wishes on what should be their special day, and aren't sure what they should do next.

People were quick to assure the bride she should put her foot down in this situation, as one Reddit user simply wrote: "Uninvite her from getting hair and makeup done," whilst another commented: "I get as a people pleaser you don't want to rock the boat with his family, but in this situation, it is not possible for both you and his sister to get what you want so you need to choose between the two.

"Your fiancé should be having a final conversation with her and putting his foot down completely. Tell her she cannot have her baby under during the getting ready portion any circumstances, and if she cannot find childcare then you both are fine with her meeting you at the ceremony."

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