'I refuse to change my unborn baby's name – my sister-in-law says I'm selfish'

A woman has been branded 'inconsiderate' by her brother's girlfriend after she refused to change her unborn daughter's name - and her brother even broke up with her in the end

A woman has been hailed for standing firm on not changing her unborn daughter's name despite causing upset to her sister-in-law.

The 27-year-old, currently in her second trimester, and her husband decided to honour his late grandmother by naming their daughter after her. On Reddit, she shared: "At first we were hesitant about being public about the name as I know disagreements can occur. I wont lie it's a pretty basic name and a name I had always liked so we went with it." Yet, when they announced the name to their family, her sister-in-law "flipped out" and demanded a change.

She detailed the incident, saying: "My brother, 34, and his girlfriend, 28, have been together for eight months and my brother has admitted it's already getting a bit rocky and he's debating leaving her. She stated that was her late daughter's name from a different man, not my brother so I had no idea that was her name, my brother just informed us her daughter had passed last year and to be careful on those sorts of topics around her but the name was never brought up.

"Despite her sister-in-law's insistence that the baby's name be changed claiming she couldn't bear to hear her deceased daughter's name used for another child the expectant mother maintains her stance due to the personal significance of the name and the possibility that her brother may split from his girlfriend.

"I understand it must be so hard but the name has meaning to us and if I'm being honest if she was genuinely a part of my family, I may have considered but my brother wasn't sure if they were forever. I offered for them to come up with a nickname we use around her if she desperately didn't want to hear the name but she refused and said she doesn't care about whose grandmother is dead, she had it coming but her daughter still had her whole life ahead of her and called me an inconsiderate cow."

Following this, her brother ended his relationship with his partner immediately. However, friends of the pregnant woman believe she overreacted. Seeking opinions on whether she was in the wrong, she took to social media to gauge public sentiment. One user responded: "I get why she is upset, but she can't demand that of you. If you're not even close enough to her to know the name of her late daughter, then that's far enough of a separation that she can't tell you what to do.

"It would be a different story if her daughter's name was a unique name, and that you only decided on it after hearing it from her. But that's completely not the case here." Another user chimed in: "I lost my first child when she was seven-months-old. I was sensitive about family using her name... But never demanded anything. Nobody owns a name. I have a cousin that gave her daughter as a middle name and asked me.

"Of course I gave my blessing. You didn't know her daughter... Y'all aren't family... I personally don't think you did anything wrong." A third user said: "The name has nothing to do with her except coincidentally being her dead daughter's name. The name has another meaning for you, so keep it. The burden is for her to bear. And in eight months, she may be no longer around."

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