Woman refuses to be a kidney donor for her dying sister

by · Mail Online

A woman has questioned if she is in the wrong for refusing to donate her kidney to her sister - despite the fact that it is her sibling's only chance at survival. 

The unnamed 19-year-old took to Reddit to share the tragic situation that saw her 23-year-old sister being diagnosed with end-stage kidney failure. 

She begged people on the web for advice as she revealed that her sibling's only chance was a kidney transplant. 

The teen noted that despite being the only match, she had reservations about helping to save her sibling. 

In a thread titled Am I The A**hole, she questioned if she was in the wrong for not wanting go through with the medical procedure. 

A woman has questioned if she is an a**hole for refusing to donate her kidney to her sister, despite the fact that it's her sibling's only chance at survival (stock image)
The unnamed 19-year-old took to Reddit to share the tragic situation that saw her 23-year-old sister being diagnosed with End Stage Kidney Failure

The post was titled: 'Am I the a**hole for refusing to donate a kidney to my sister despite it being her only chance to survive?' 

She explained: 'I'm 19F, and my older sister, who's 23, has been diagnosed with end-stage kidney failure. The doctors have told us that a transplant is her only option for survival, and I'm the only match in our family.'

The 19-year-old went on to share that she and her sister have a difficult relationship. 

'My sister and I have never been close. Growing up, she was often critical and dismissive of me. We've had a strained relationship for years, and our interactions are generally limited to the bare minimum. 

'I've also had my own health issues and concerns about undergoing major surgery, which adds to my hesitation. When I found out I'm the only possible donor, I felt overwhelmed,' she added. 

The Reddit poster noted that although she had tried to discuss her hesitation with her family, they were pressuring her to donate her kidney. 

'I've tried talking to my family about my reservations, but they insist that it's my duty to save her because we're family. My sister is understandably upset and has been telling me that if I don't donate, it proves I don't care about her.

'My family is also pressuring me heavily, saying I'd be a terrible person for refusing and that I should put aside our differences for the sake of saving her life. 

People on the web flooded the comments section and ran to the 19-year-old's defense as they advised her to inform her doctors of what was occurring

'I'm feeling a lot of guilt and confusion because while I want to be supportive, I also don't want to sacrifice my own well-being and mental health for someone who has made my life difficult,' she revealed.

People on the web flooded the comments section and ran to the teen's defense as they advised her to inform her doctors of what was occurring. 

One person said: 'How about you tell all of this to the transplant team. Because as soon as they realize you are being pressured you are no longer eligible to donate. Removes all the trouble.'

Someone else added: 'Tell the doctors and nurses that you are being pressured to comply, they will help you. There will be other non-related donors out there, it just may take longer to find them.'

Another user commented: 'Guilt-tripping you into donating is unfair. You don't owe her your kidney just because you're related, especially after how she's treated you.'

'It is your body and your decision, not the a**hole. Do not let someone who has not been good to you to guilt-trip you into having significant surgery,' someone else commented.