Woman begged to attend wedding of cheating ex and former best friend

A woman whose boyfriend left her for her best friend, has been left baffled after the new couple insisted on inviting her to their wedding.

Taking to Reddit, the woman has desperately sought advice after her former boyfriend and best friend begged her to come to their wedding - despite 'betraying' her three years ago to be with one another.

She explained that her boyfriend of a year and a half, Josh, 27, broke up with her three years ago so he could pursue her best pal, Ana, 25, who he 'had feelings for'.

Josh and Ana had spent some time together, having being brought together by a mutual friend, but soon developed feelings for one another and started having an affair.

The Reddit user eventually found out about their affair but said she was most upset over the fact that they had 'lied' to her about it.

'They made a fool out of me,' she wrote. 

'I would have tried to be understanding and tried to support them, but they chose to lie,' she wrote, wisely deciding to block both of them on social media and move on with her life. 

Luckily, she moved on with her life and 'found a job with a good income'.

Life had been plodding on as normal up until a few weeks ago when she found out via a mutual friend that Josh and Ana were getting married.

Much to her shock, she was then contacted by her former best friend asking if she would like to be involved in the wedding.  

'A week ago, I received a message from Ana, telling me that she and Josh were getting married and that they would like me to be a part of the wedding party. I replied “Congratulations. No, thank you.”

'I had no feelings for Josh anymore and I’m even seeing someone else, but I don’t want to celebrate the wedding of two people who betrayed me,' she continued.

But the pair were 'insistent' with Josh even attempting to contact her through a different phone number.

Even the people closest to her were trying to persuade her to go - including her mother who 'sounded disappointed' when she said no.

'This is all just quite weird to me. Why would you want your ex-girlfriend/ex- best friend, the girl you cheated on, to be part of your wedding party?' she asked.

Ana's mother also called her, asking her to put aside her differences and go to the wedding, which she promptly rejected. She said she believed her mother was keen to attend the event, regardless of the painful history. 

She said: 'Her mom berated me, saying that I should let bygones be bygones and that I should be happy for her daughter. I asked her if I cheated with Ana’s boyfriend and then invited her to the wedding, would she convince Ana to go? She had no answer to this and I hung up.'

The Reddit user then asked readers for advice on her 'insistent' friends and family.  

'This is quite getting out of hand because I’m receiving more than 20-30 calls and texts a day from their friends and family about this wedding. 

'I don’t think it’s normal that they are very insistent,' she added.

Ana even attempted to to contact her via a different phone number, after she was first blocked three years ago.

'I don't know how she got my number,' she said.

'Also, my hometown is a small town, and most of our friends did know that I was cheated on, that's why this seems so weird to me. I did block the people who were very insistent (including the new numbers of Ana, Josh and Ana's mom.) 

'I keep blocking the people that text me about the wedding, but new numbers just keep popping up, which makes it more weird that people are actually making an effort to get new numbers just so I would attend an ex's wedding.'

Attempting to advise her on the tricky situation, several Reddit readers took to the comments. 

One user wrote: 'They want you at the wedding to help relieve there own guilt they think it will make people think all is forgiven and forgotten when in reality no one will ever trust these two people with there partners or friends ever let them rot and if people go on and on cut contact with them too.'

A second suggested: 'Block them all. If anyone else asks you why you're not going, just ask with a bewildered look "why would I go to the wedding of two people who betrayed me in the worst way?" because truthfully it makes no sense.

'The petty in me wants you to go, get glammed up better than the bride, wear your best, sexiest, reddist outfit, walk in with guy who's taller, fitter, and cuter than the groom, and make the bride cry. But... don't. It sounds like you're in a healthy place now and I'm happy for you.'

A third penned: 'I suspect Ana doesn't have a lot of female friends. No one trusts her around their boyfriends. 

'No one wants to be her bridesmaid. Ana made her bed, and now she can lay in it. They'll stop bugging you after the wedding. In the meantime, block.' 

Responding the the thousands of comments of advice, the Reddit user thanked everyone and said she was seeking the help of another friend.

'I'm gonna talk to a close friend who still lives in my hometown. She hates Ana for what she did to me, and she may know what's going on. That's all for now. Thank you so much for all the advice in the comments and messages!' she wrote.